D is for Domestic Violence! Violence in any form towards fellow human beings is not tolerated and when that violence happens in the place that is supposed to protect and guard you—you surely feel helpless. The world of domestic violence is a living hell for the victim, as she doesn’t know what may initiate the violence. Domestic violence forces the victim to become a living corpse because she doesn’t or a piece of furniture, which the husband uses at his will, abuses and discard her again at his will.
Long time back some five years back when I was researching on this topic I came across some figures, which revealed that domestic violence is not a national problem but a worldwide problem and all over the world almost 90 percent of women are suffering from domestic violence and the figures are on the sire in the developed countries like yes you guessed it right America.
If we look at our country, we will be surprised again to see that domestic violence is a norm even in well-educated families as well. But wait a minute why is it surprising? No I am not surprised? Why you may ask! Well for the starters the abusers are either alcoholic, have relations outside marriage, have seen their father dealing with their mom in a similar fashion hence they think it is normal to raise your hands.
Domestic violence is defined as a violent or aggressive behaviour within the home, typically involving the violent abuse of a spouse or partner. And the government define domestic violence as “Any incident of threatening behaviour, violence or abuse (psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional) between adults who are or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender or sexuality.”
There are exceptions in this case too and click here to read some of the rare cases when men are at the receiving end of the domestic violence.
Bell Bajao is also working to protect women against so please do visit to read, comment and write about it.
Remember that you need to speak up against the violence to protect those for whom you are staying silent and suffering – yes your children.
Swatz Says 
True Swati. Domestic violence comes in various forms, not just physical. And education in fact, seems to give the required tools to perpetrate this in subtle forms. How much of it is a consequence of the environment at home and how much is self learned is something I always wonder, especially when the perpetrators learn so many things not taught at home. Insecurity, sadistic streak – What drives them to stoop to such low levels? And so many women support their men in this, be it a mother or sister or aunt or whoever it is. And the people like parents, relatives and the society pushing the woman to go back to her in-laws or look down upon her. Which woman having gone through this hell wants to give birth to a daughter! What hope and assurance can such a woman give to her daughter?!
Prathima, Domestic violence is also a result of patriarch society — control over the women folk is the main aim. Reduce her to the level where her confidence is shattered, her self-respect taken a blow and self doubts made their home in her heart — that’s the aim of Domestic Violence.
Thank you for taking time to read and comment on my blog post. Thanks much appreciated.
Seems line D has been standing alone.Many out there chose this topic for D,Isnt it interesting to note?
Yes. I remember attending a recent bloggers meet and the initiative of Bell Bajao was discussed there. It’s a good, valuable initiative to curb domestic violence, and I wish them success to get that problem curbed and eventually stopped. If there’s no feeling of security at home, then stepping outside, that feeling will not go away easily perhaps.
so relative and need of the hour, very well highlighted
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It’s a pity that even well-educated people are involved in domestic violence. Breaking silence is probably the least one can do.
Yes Rekha, it is the well educated class who indulge in domestic violence as a source of controlling their women folk. Sort of power play — a thought process of patriarch society.