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M is for Marital Rape! Sensitive topic but the one that needs more discussion! Rape itself is a soul shattering tragedy that can strike any woman and when it happens within the confines of marriage and by your partner – it is not only soul shattering but is a blow to women’s self-respect and dignity. Men by nature are physically strong and when they showcase their strength by forced sex – then it’s a rape within the marital life.

While researching on the topic I came across lots of articles and printed material on the topic but struck me the most was the quote of the novelist Nilanjana Roy “all things we’ve been fighting for,” but said the government does not yet dare to tackle marital rape because it “strikes at the heart of the arranged marriage system. Aha! So here is the reason why marital rape is such a sensitive issue! Because it strikes at the traditional arranged marriage system but then isn’t arranged marriage another form of patriarchy – to have control over the newly married couple. However, this is a myth! It is not that arranged marriages means that your husband will be your rapist, here is the case where the man and woman chose each other and the woman now is being subjected to marital rape every night.

Over the years numerous countries have accepted rape within the marriage as a punishable crime barring the few countries where it is still an accepted norm to force oneself on one’s wife in the name of husbandly rights! If domestic violence is attacks on women’s self-respect, marital rape kills her soul and destroys her faith in the sanctity of marriage.

According to the facts and figures almost every second woman in the country is facing serious issues in her married life – be it domestic violence or sexual violence or Marital Rape as we know it. Husbands in all these cases have one thing in common and that is they are from patriarchal school of thought considering their wives as their properties and slaves. When a man considers his wife as a slave he treats her shabbily, abusers her physically, mentally and torture her with his hard-hitting words.

Unfortunately, India does not recognise sex within marriage sorry forced sex within marriage as RAPE! Why because it is sex within marriage is a husbandly right and WOMEN HAVE NO RIGHT to refuse her husband. In fact it is considered as mental cruelty against husband if a wife refuses her husband to have sex! Can you beat the irony here? Mental Cruelty against husband!? And what about the physical and sexual cruelty that man enforces on his woman? There is no account for that and absolutely no answer as well!
M is for Marital Rape! Sensitive topic but the one that needs more discussion! Rape itself is a soul shattering tragedy that can strike any woman and when it happens within the confines of marriage and by your partner – it is not only soul shattering but is a blow to women’s self-respect and dignity. Men by nature are physically strong and when they showcase their strength by forced sex – then it’s a rape within the marital life.
While researching on the topic I came across lots of articles and printed material on the topic but struck me the most was the quote of the novelist Nilanjana Roy “all things we’ve been fighting for,” but said the government does not yet dare to tackle marital rape because it “strikes at the heart of the arranged marriage system. Aha! So here is the reason why marital rape is such a sensitive issue! Because it strikes at the traditional arranged marriage system but then isn’t arranged marriage another form of patriarchy – to have control over the newly married couple. However, this is a myth! It is not that arranged marriages means that your husband will be your rapist, here is the case where the man and woman chose each other and the woman now is being subjected to marital rape every night.

Over the years numerous countries have accepted rape within the marriage as a punishable crime barring the few countries where it is still an accepted norm to force oneself on one’s wife in the name of husbandly rights! If domestic violence is attacks on women’s self-respect, marital rape kills her soul and destroys her faith in the sanctity of marriage.

Unfortunately, India does not recognise sex within marriage sorry forced sex within marriage as RAPE! Why because it is sex within marriage is a husbandly right and WOMEN HAVE NO RIGHT to refuse her husband. In fact it is considered as mental cruelty against husband if a wife refuses her husband to have sex! Can you beat the irony here? Mental Cruelty against husband!? And what about the physical and sexual cruelty that man enforces on his woman? There is no account for that and absolutely no answer as well!

 

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